“Don’t Let Them Play in Your Head: The Real Tea on Gaslighting”

You ever walk away from a conversation feeling crazy, like your mind’s playing tricks on you? Like you know what you saw, heard, and felt—but somehow, someone else convinced you it never happened? Yeah, baby. That’s not just confusion. That’s gaslighting. And we’re calling it out today.

Gaslighting is one of the nastiest forms of manipulation, and let’s be real—it’s more common than folks want to admit. Whether it’s a toxic partner, a shady friend, or even a family member that swears they “meant well,” gaslighting is that slick mental gymnastics that leaves you questioning your reality, your feelings, and your damn sanity.

Let me break it down. Gaslighting is when someone intentionally twists the truth, downplays your experiences, or flat-out lies—all to gain control over you. It sounds like:

• “You’re being too sensitive.”

• “That never happened.”

• “You’re overreacting.”

• “You always take things the wrong way.”

Nah. See, when people say things like that, it’s not always just “clearing the air.” Sometimes, it’s a calculated move to make you the problem while they stay squeaky clean. That’s manipulation 101.

Now, if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you didn’t do, second-guessing your memory, or walking on eggshells around somebody—pause. Ask yourself: Is this person helping me grow or keeping me confused?

Gaslighting isn’t love. It’s not concern. It’s control. And if you let it slide too long, it chips away at your confidence, your voice, your sense of self. That’s why it’s so dangerous—because it’s silent. Subtle. But deadly to your peace.

So here’s what we not gon’ do in 2025: we’re not making excuses for manipulative behavior. We’re not playing therapist to people who thrive off our confusion. And we’re definitely not letting anyone sit up in our minds rent-free, rearranging the furniture like they pay bills in our heads.

Recognize the signs. Reclaim your power. And remember—your reality is valid. Your feelings are real. And anybody who makes you doubt that? Cut. Them. Off.